Ask Shuli: Pissed on Passover
Dear Shuli: My brother got drunk at the seder last year, couldn’t help with the dishes, and I got resentful. How can I get past this so I’m not still mad this Pesach? –Manischewitz Maiden
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Ask Shuli: Funeral on Shabbas?
Dear Shuli: A close colleague of mine just passed away, and his funeral is this Saturday — Shabbat. I really want to pay my respects at the funeral. Should I go? — Farklempt Friend
Ask Shuli: Passover Dilemma
Dear Shuli: It’s my favorite holiday, but this year I’m anxious about the upcoming Pesach (Passover). My mom recently remarried … Her new husband is Jewish, but totally secular. Should I invite both of them to our seder, or just her? — Passed Over
Ask Shuli: Nice Neighbor or Wild Thing?
Dear Shuli: We’re trying to get to know our new next-door neighbors, who have two children about the same age as ours. Should I worry about their kid influencing mine, or hope that mine provides the good influence? — Neighbor Tsores
Ask Shuli: Does Texting = Stalking?
Dear Shuli: I gave my cell phone number to a woman I met recently while on a group outing with friends. She’s been sending me suggestive and embarrassing text messages—which make me uncomfortable. How can I get her to stop? — Textphobic
Ask Shuli: Office Bully
Dear Shuli: This week a rather loud coworker embarrassed me in public, and I’m not sure how to deal with it. — Humiliated Cubicle Gal
Ask Shuli: Shabbat Mixer
Dear Shuli: I’ve invited some friends over for Shabbat dinner. He’s Jewish and she’s not. What can I do to make both feel comfortable?
Ask Shuli: Why Are Jews So Cliquey?
Dear Shuli: It seems that in today’s society, many Jews tend to stick together very exclusively. After years of anti-Semitism and persecution (that still exists today), do we feel it necessary to make others feel uncomfortable? Why are Jews so cliquey?
Ask Shuli: J.A.P. Momala
Dear Shuli: My kids are looking forward to my mom’s visit next month for Hanukkah, but I’m dreading it. The cliché is that the mother-in-law is overbearing, but to tell you the truth—it’s my own mom.
Ask Shuli: Mean Girls
Dear Shuli: I’m looking forward to my high school reunion, but I dread seeing one particular classmate. She’s my best friend’s good friend, and somehow she always made me feel like a third wheel.
Ask Shuli: Boy Friends Don’t Cry
Dear Shuli: I’m a young man in my late 20s, and I’m having a hard time connecting with some of my guy friends, post-college.
Ask Shuli: Flakey friend or foe?
Dear Shuli: I’ve been trying to make plans with a new friend, but she often changes plans or flakes out. Should I give up on her?
Ask Shuli: Are e-mail apologies kosher?
The operative word is BEFORE Yom Kippur. On the “Day of Atonement,” we ask God for forgiveness, to wipe our slate clean for the New Jewish Year. Our sages have said—and this 21st century yenta heartily agrees—that it’s crucial to ask forgiveness from friends, associates and loved ones we’ve wronged, before we can ask for divine leniency.
Announcing “Ask Shuli”: for Jewish questions you can’t ask Bubbe
“Ask Shuli” is TC Jewfolk’s yiddishe equivalent of Dear Abby or my personal favorite, Ask Amy, with a healthy dose of guilt sprinkled in. If you’ve ever wondered how the hell (sorry, momala) to explain Simchat Torah to your non-Jewish boss, ask Shuli. Or, is pre-marital sex good for the Jews? What’s keeping your pretty little keppe (head) up at night? What’s fueling your Happy Hour conversations? I’m here to answer your questions… And I’m just like you. Only cuter.